DWD AUSTRALIA
DAY 1, MARCH 5, 2003
DEBRIEF

 

AIR: Ok, the first night of DWD in Gold Coast here. What day of the week is this?

Wednesday
AIR: Wednesday the fifth of March 2003.

It was a 20.

AIR: Definitely a 20. It started out slow. They were just dead as doorknobs. 1
know, it's bizarre. Cause I don't think they're going but they're going but
1 have is work my ass to get them going. They were very slow. I teased them

about it, pushed them.
It's the firsl lime we've done an

First of all I acknowledged
event like this where the whole day he was absolutely on top of it. He didn't

miss any cues. I gave lum one correction that wasn't a bad correction it was just,
I get him to save Nickel Back and not do it during a negative piece because it's a
positive song. But that was minor. He could have played it and it still would
have been fine. I really, really, want to acknowledge him and call him tonight
and thank him. Because it gave me the capacity to be able to focus on the
audience instead of focus on the music which is fantastic.

Earlier in the day, early in the night, content was "eat. It was a very different
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ought to look at the possib {y of it. Cause the room is dark and din and I

forgot about it. It was the same thing last year. Something about all that brown
and dark thatjust brings the energy down.

The bottom line is, got 'em. I like the syntax of what I did, it was different than
what I planned as usual, upfront. And I don't even remember all the content
pieces. I want to get a transcript of it though because I put a lot of pieces in
there that would relate directly to the Emotional Fitness Book in terms of
sequencing that, you know 1 got The Model of the World in quicker. I like the
way that I shaped it. I had a couple of phrases and I was saying them. I was
thinking, oh this is perfect for the book but right now frankly they escape
me so we'll get a transcript and kind of highlight some of those phrases. Pam
(inaudible) some of the Creative members have been to enough events would
probably see content that would stand out, I'd mark that a lot and have them

mark things.
I got across the whole concept, early on in a different way about
knowing yourself and being yourself. I don't know, again I can't remember
the syntax right now because there's so many different pieces in my head
going on right now. But all I know is I really liked it. I liked what I did at
DWD PS felt outstanding, it was just more enjoyable but I think part of it is
the room is so much brighter. It's just that it's 3 ve different experience.
Going in this room is very dingy feeling. And I liked whatI did, playfully
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DWD Australia 2003 Day One Debrief
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They had all these needles in her, pumping her stomach trying to do
everything they could to make her survive and she did. It was pretty

severe.

Anyway, long story short, she told me about the relationship so thinking
ok, what do you do with this woman, I don?t know what the reality is. I?m
looking for the reality within her of what she would do. I said, you know
if we work things out with him, at some point I just said, let?s get him on
the phone. I said we got a phone message back there and people all kind
of freaked. You could just feel the whole room change when I said this.
There was all this tension about it. Then he wasn?t reachable but I realized
he was in the Gold Coast so I said great we?ll get him down here in

erson. Get him on the phone. Sol worked with her a little bit and then
what I did is I played with the audience because the audience was in a
position, there was so much tension in the audience. When I was having
this discussion with her before he was there and there, it was earlier
because I done this thing on the levels of consciousness and I talked about
how important it is to take care of the lower levels, where we are as a
society, we won?t f?-?ing survive if we don?t take care of them. So a little

bit of a heavy. .

Then we had a stretch break, everything was great and the energy was
back at that level even more intense so I decided to play with the audience
so I said, what are you guys feeling? So I went around the room and I
found this one woman who, she was crying, she started to talk and she
started to cry about her father left her when she was 7 and rejected her
and this man had raped her and I said the truth which no one would say
is she?s using all this stuff to try and control men and that is
complete horseshit. But it did happen but this, I handled it in a way that
was so elegant. I was directwas warm, it was fantastic.

Then I processed some other guy. Several people talked about like this
one woman got all excited like this is like real, this is like the real stuff.
While you?re in the seminar now the real things going to happen. It was
really fascinating these people had mindsets that this is one world then
the outside world they?re going to is a different one. Like one guy said
we?re in training in here and then we go out there. I said then let?s
bring out there in here. I said but I think in here is out there if you?re

smart.

So I did therapeutic work on another woman who was suicidal who had
been hospitalized also and everything else. Her husband had left and
wanted to have another woman live with them and their kids because the
other woman gave him variety and significance and this woman was
completely shut down. Total, not an ounce of energy. Just a dark cloudthe end that she needs. . ..she was so heavy, so dead
and she was talking about, she?s the one that went with drugs also. She
was like at the edge at the hospital, they got her to come back. She was
like so enraged. Like how could a man like this do this to me and how

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somebody said he was twenty minutes away, so I said ?Okay,? I said,
?Get over here.? He said, ?Well, uh, you know, I gotta get off work later
today, and I?ve got to go take a shower.? And I said ?F?k the shower.? I
said ?Leave work f?~kin now.? He goes, ?Well I can?t do that.? I said,
?Leave work right f?ing now. Your marriage is on the line. Am I
wrong? Or is your marriage on the line?? He goes, ?Oh, yeah, yeah mate.
My marriage is'on the line.? I said, ?Then tell them your f?ing leaving
work, and get your f?ing a?over here now. I?ll see you in twenty
minutes.? And he?s like, ?Uh, And when I hung up the phone, it

was like, the energy in the room was so explosive.

So then he comes over and it was just really, really, I did the other therapy
in between. A couple therapies in between. That young girl who was
manipulating her past pain, and what's so great is, you know, I know
[Sounds like, ?that everyone in the room may be pissed at me?] for
negating that, so I mind read what they?d be pissed off about, and I still
told the truth, that she?s manipulating it. don?t support anybody f?wing
raping her or taking advantage of her, but I don?t support her in f?ing
manipulating herself, men, and other people by trying to use that tool
when it?s really not the primary experience of her life now. So I handled
her, then I did the other woman, and got her to forgive, own, change, all
the things I?ve already dictated how I did that. And then he shows up,
holy I mean that was, that was extraordinarr because he shows up,
and the energy of the room was so great when he came to the front of
the room. That?s when I acknowledged him and asked him why, and I
already dictated this piece. I?m remembering now. About, you know, he
said, ?Well I think they want me to feel G'ood. They want me to be
comfortable. They know I have something to say, and they want me to
feel comfortable saying it. I said, think that?s because they respect you
for coming here.? And then the whole f??ing room just went exploded.

Wild.

They stood up in standing ovation, and you could just see him pulling it
in, and I kept the energy going, and I just, again, the mindset was, in a
beat down state, he will not make the right choices. In a beat down

state, he will not have the resources to change this. I?ve got to build this
man up. I had to challenge his a? to get him there, build him up once
he?s there, and then challenge him at the appropriate moments, but first
show understanding. And I very deliberately stood in front of him
While I had everybody clapping, and looked in his eyes, and smiled, so
he would anchor that I was Supportive of him, and I was an ally. And
so then he was willing to open up. So I asked him these questions and
found out how he used to be so intense, and how he adapted because she
was scared, and she had been abused by her past husband, and he became
something he?s not. Then I got her to acknowledge that she was turned on
by that aspect of him, and actually wanted him to be more intense, but
never told him, and then she pretended she didn?t want more because she
thought that?s not What he wanted. 50 it became the perfect example of